We had an instant connection and a fairytale romance. sad we always have a hard relationship couldnt understand why we had to argue so much for almost all things. Here I am 24 years old I dont understand any of it. I had identical twins, no history of depression, just to many disappointments, to many hopes dashed and the death of their father, through illness in 2014. Please hold your loved ones tight and make sure they know what they mean to you. I dont know if thats something youd be interested in, but its there if youd like to look at it.). On the 13th of this month(December), he sent me a text saying I hype to have a good day. Dont ever become to complacent and think your in control because in the blink of an eye your life and those around you can change forever. Of course they asked my husband and I to keep an eye out which we did. EVERY SINGLE DAY I ask WHY!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Call someone when you need to talk. Why does everyone care about my weight?! His influence in me is so great, his fingerprints are all over the man Ive become. We decided as a family that we would keep him with us through the following Sunday. I can assure you that silence hurts. Linda M Osmon April 4, 2018 at 9:31 pm Reply. He became very bitter and angry the last few years of his life and I wasnt there for him as I should have been. I believe I was sure hed say shes alive get the streacher but instead he just pulled away and shook his head no That was when my soul ripped in half and i lost consciousness. I dont know what I hope to achieve by writing this. My siblings and I are taking care of my mom now but who is going to be there to take care of me? This article may be of some support https://whatsyourgrief.com/grieving-someone-you-didnt-like/. I lost one of my best friends and longest friendship this last August. The dead body of the man I had loved every day of my life since I was 20 years old. She threatened suicide for years and none of us thought shed ever do it. She was 55. The last thing I said to her was: I want to see you first thing, on the first day of highschool. I did grief share at a local church but they still read from the bible that it was a sin, I even looked for grief counsler but I cant find any that takes my insurance Medicare and Tricare. My mom came home after being gone for two days from babysitting for another brother while he and his wife were out of town for a wedding and found him. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. What were his last few thoughts? Michelle Masterson May 28, 2021 at 6:08 am Reply. It maybe helpful for you. Is it normal to feel like shes already dead ? He really did. The question of what happened isnt something a child can comprehend at that age and my child is a lot smarter than I realized. My 18 year-old son committed suicide at home yesterday morning. When I received the devastating news I couldnt breathe, I still dont feel as though it actually happened. Although I will never get over my brothers death, I am now able to remember him as he was, talents and flaws, and all. Thank you for reading. Just to think I feel like it was very selfish my daughters cry every time they think about him and I just have to show them a lot more love is very hard for me too I went to his funeral with my oldest daughter and she had to say good bye to him in a very sad way they also decided to cremate his body and she was there to witness, such a hard way to end his life he was only 31 years old. I got busy with my own family and hustles, only to receive a call that he had taken some pestscide poison. , Isabelle Siegel February 9, 2021 at 9:16 am Reply. I didnt learn the real cause of death until I was 50, through a family friend, quite by accident. But its hard to not think what if there was something else I could have done to help her. Life will never be the same but we must go on and find reasons to live life and find happiness, even if that happiness is just for a moment. Adapted from I. Bolton & C. Mitchell. He was 600 miles away from us. I knew he was having a hard time after the first three weeks of lockdown, but I was not aware of how much he was suffering. I had been in so much emotional pain. He had recently returned home after living with girl friend and her family for 3 years. He jumped in front of a train. I'm not so sure. And something inside me broke when I heard the news. Please keep swimming, just like Dory says just keep swimming swimming swimming, Mike B. August 30, 2021 at 11:22 am Reply. Everything I have researched has said that pregnant women are always first priority because of whats happening in their body that they dont understand but she was pushed away. I lost it! If that wasnt traumatizing enough, I was never informed of his death nor told about his funeral. for awhile yes. The article and responses are a great comfort to me. Remember that you will get through . You Can Also Read Our Other Posts About Suicide Deaths: In Memory of Robin Williams:How to Talk With Kids About Suicide, Review of the Dougy Centers After a Suicide Death: An Activity Book for Grieving Kids, Review of Hospice of the Chesapeakes Supporting Children After a Suicide Loss: A Guide for Parents and Caregivers. May David rest in peace. You need to be with your family, to grieve. Dont go through this alone. And even though I realized all too well how family and friends would feel if I died, I couldnt cope anymore. It was after a couple of months of his manic episode that was more intense than ever. He was the love of my life. And neither should you. This may sound weird, especially to me, but I am so glad I posted. I have been through that box so many times, but on this day i went through some of his study notes. Do not accept blame from yourself or others. I lost my husband to suicide in 2019!! Its the Medical schools dirty little secret. I wish everyone else here the best, it is so horrible to read all your stories. Most days I can compartmentalize and but today it feels like I am back in the ICU watching him fade and then my mind then shoots to the day we married in Las Vegas on a whim so full of hope for our future. I miss him so much i want this nightmare to be over. Required fields are marked *. It was just too hard for him. I fell..it hurt but no harm done. He tried to send me a message on fb. I was married for 25 years to a man that cheated on me. I want to know him. Nicky November 30, 2018 at 5:02 pm Reply. It is common to experience physical reactions to your grief, such as headaches, loss of appetite and difficulty sleeping. Love your family and friends. Or so violent the investigation of the scene from detectives was being treated as homicide. He has completely fallen apart. I felt let down by anyone so I stopped communicating with any of them. Sadly, she could not remain on the medication, however the nurses did home visits to do appraisals. She left a beautiful son age 8 who is gentle soul . I cant say that he blew his head away. My little sister shot herself in the head a week ago. I told her that she was smart, strong and hard-working. What makes them snap? Although I am still in disbelief during some moments, as I think of his laugh and his smile and his permanent absence from our lives due to an impetuous, desperate choice he made that night, I am beginning to have better moments during the day. Please how can i fight this emptiness in me. As the police came to the door he pulled the trigger. And let me add that the girl he had a crush on was the most special of all of them. The pain she must have felt I cant even begin to imagine. It is a horrible disease for which there is no cure nor treatment. 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You may want to check out these articles: https://whatsyourgrief.com/grief-and-sleep/ and https://whatsyourgrief.com/physical-grief-symptoms/ All the best to you and your family. But the issue was when we where together , he would ( abuse me ) thats why we parted ways . He was just one boy, just one . I sat with him for hours each night talking, he told me that I would have to accept that he could not carry on in this world, he felt like an outcast, did not fit in or belong. The day before our mothers birthday. My concern is still him and his soul and I pray that he is not judged by anyone including God for the one act he did, but that he be judged for his acts of the past 11 years. My only son took his life in the morning of January 1, 2013. This is my prayer for us all. Im looking for that little spark . my twin 48 year old brother died on tuesday 10 sept 2013- he killed himself by hanging. mistersinister has killed himself and you are his brother and you are now angry at this forum because you think it made him . Im shattered. I do realize, though, that some of you wont read this post all the way through. My first when my fiance shot himself in front of me. Then I lost my dad in the same way. As a family we havent, and will Never be the same. My son never ever showed any depression to no one. The rings I had given her were returned to me in a BIOHAZARD bag, very much deformed. It iscommon for a person to feel relieved after a loved one dies, when the loved one had been living in pain and suffering. I could cry so many times, be in bed most of the days, feel guilty, rejected, alone, empty, hopeless, lifeless , worthless , and be miserable but I know it will never bring him back physically alive. I knew her well and knew all wed endured throughout our childhood (all the family secrets). I am so sorry for your pain and loss. My heart goes out to you , I am so sorry Rosemy son suffered from anxiety and depressionhe overdosed from heroin January 22, 2016he knew this stuff could kill him as he overdosed before I feel the pain was too much for him and the drugs made it better I would be willing to guess that mental illness is behind most if not all drug overdoses, Marion Cameron May 19, 2016 at 8:20 am Reply, Penny Caldwell May 19, 2016 at 11:01 am Reply. She couldnt in the end because of her illness. I am harsh with idiots who say the wrong things I tell them to get lost, to leave me alone ! I was such an idiot, I even told him spooky stories like from true story where mentally Ill people end up killing the people they love. Is that when he was at his drunkest he still wanted more until he passed out. He was jealous and overprotective at times. IsabelleS October 19, 2020 at 11:20 am Reply, John, I am so sorry that you are experiencing this pain. We had a fight after he went through my phone, we argued, and he threw a glass against the wall. I lost my younger brother the day after 19th I feel so much pain just why!!!! We have memorials in both of our shops, and every morning I fall apart in front of her pictures before I let the employees or public in, and I ask why she wouldnt let me save her. He told me it was ok and that we had time, but I went to call him the next day and his mom answered the phone. No time did not help, but I have learned to live with it. Following all of this I found out I have bipolar with mixed features, Ptsd, social anxiety and agoraphobia, my dad also found out he is bipolar as well. Most of my regrets are for the things he never got to do , like seeing the see. I am still grieving the loss of his life as well as mine the way I knew it. My neighbor has been dead for three days. dealing with things has been difficult. I hope Gabriel can hear me, and that his mother and father go to justice, I love you, Gabe you will always be in my heart, you killing yourself has hurt me deeply, but now youe hopefully happy and in peace. My friend informed me that his mom was actually her boss and the family was keeping everything quiet while they are grieving but he did in fact take his own life. So, I continue to utilize my time, to nurture and love myself every day. Strange comments about death, or how he crashed his car because the fell asleep at the wheel due to sleep apnea problems( having shared a bedroom for years with this person I can attest to the vast array of noises he made in his sleep the snoring and teeth grinding omg!) She taklked abour wanting to die six weeks before she died by suicide. Strangers in the night. I can not believe that some body can make you jump from the rooftop of the 19th floor building. My brother took his life October 24,2016, he was just 30 years old. I feel your pain. He was 7 1/2 years older than me and he died eight days after my wedding and after having run off a month before. I am grieving very differently than the other people in his life. He briefly mentioned messages on the night about what he was about to do but being the young joker lad he was he always used humour about things like this so how was I to know? Not sure if my gestures to reach out will be welcome and with the grief Im already feeling for the loss of my brother Im not even sure Im even able to be supportive. I am incredibly sad and traumatized and am also dealing with grief and anxiety from it. I found his body. Chuck was also a man not used to losing, and when Jimmy managed to not only beat Chuck . when I pulled in the ambulance was wheeling her in. They did everything together. We live with the what ifs and whys everyday. But for all I know he could of had plans to kill me then himself. Otherwise I am a loser. Nobody was there for her. I got to the house and her mother invited me in for tea. I will never be the same again, and even my personality has changed since this loss, but I feel that it will make me a better personwiser, kinder, softerto have known such suffering myself. Don't shut yourself away, you need to deal with this, in whatever way feels right. It was difficult for me at first, but we supported him with his hormone therapy and mastectomy. My heart hurts missing my baby brother. Phyllis German March 6, 2018 at 9:31 pm Reply. Don't forget that you are part of everyone and allow yourself to process as you need to. I know now she really wasnt after all. Life doesnt seem worth living with her standing on my throat. Alijaha, I am truly so sorry for your loss and for the pain youre being forced to endure. I cant even imagine the horror that she felt. She finally switched physicians and got the new one to prescribe her a lethal dose of a blood pressure medication that she told them she takes for migraines (she had never taken it before, I figured this out after her death by going through her emails and the possessions that the police returned to me). We used to be 4 now we are 3 left its the worst thought, i wish nobody would understand how hard such a simple thing hurts. Hi Aaron. I had recentlylearned that my best friend had just hung herself. My first childhood(highschool) love hung himself. Im so sorry for what you are going through. The physical pain is real. I am in my year of firsts. Since that traumatic experience I have suffered from anxiety and depression. Jen I so agree with youdrugs and alcohol do such damage to the happy parts of the brain and the sadness created is unbearable for many people, Anita Pandolfe May 18, 2016 at 8:08 am Reply, Penny Caldwell May 18, 2016 at 12:38 am Reply. Its never a call you want to receive. She also had such a soft sweet voice. Then I learnt he died at anoth6 womans place. Its a loss I will never get over. I hate how mostly everyone is greedy, materialistic, selfish, and capitalistic. She said it is my fault and I didnt deserve alimony in the first place and that she read my texts. He had just come back to live with me 3 days after living with his brother for 3 months. He helped so many people in need. Realise that grief has many forms, from sadness, to anger, to guilt. My father shot himself in the head 30 years ago this year. I'm still in disbelief and honestly so angry. My Jaeson would be 23 years old in May, but yesterday he called me saying he was killing himself and that he would never see me again but he loved me. Bullied kids need to learn how to respond when told to end their lives. She was so cute blushing over a boy! As I sit here, my heart is brokenso broken. Thank you! I was too wrapped up in myself to show my concern and love for my sister and now its too late. I stared at the ground for 5 hours straight. I have never had or believed in guns,my baby died by hanging. I feel less scared now, and some peace knowing that my moms pain is over. Noit is not helpful for people to tell you others have worse things happen to them. Feel free to e-mail me. People pull through these things, you read miracles all the time.

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